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In some sense I think those older men should be criticized, but I also think people need to understand why those men have hidden in the closet for so long and why they continue to drown in their infidelity with the same sex. I have talked to men on the DL who were “self-proclaimed” thugs, businessmen, lawyers, drug dealers, educated, non-educated, educators, Black, White, Brown, and everything in between. I tried to hide who I was and pretend to date girls so others would think I was straight.I’m just glad that I was strong and confident enough to break out of my “straight façade.” So why DL?But with gay oppression, that spiritual haven is non-existent, and the vulnerability of struggling gay men and lesbian women only escalates.We live in a society where homophobes are displayed on news channels for beating and sometimes killing people for their sexual orientation, where the mentality of a mass amount of people believe it would be best to get married/make 2.5 kids, and where a church says your going to hell if you don’t change your sexual orientation.We can call him a coward, but the truth still remains, if people come out of the closet, they will have to face more hardships in life.I decided to come out because I refuse to go through life under the oppression of anyone else’s opinions.I lied, had fake relationships, and stressed my masculinity so that I could be considered normal and not have to deal with the ridicule and judgment of society.In the black community, when oppressions develop in society, black people have a history of finding a haven within the church.
One thing I can take hope in is that things are getting better.
I suppose it is up to us (Straight and Gay people) to make sure our society stops giving such a negative and unnatural connotation to the word “gay” and everything that comes with it.
Maybe then 35-year-old men will finally be able to accept their true identities.
The Laws (slowly but surely) are changing to support and protect all people.
The first gay minister was appoint in the last decade, and people are starting to understand you can still achieve success and find acceptance as an out gay man or lesbian women.
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