Dating after loss
One widower expressed that he was too distressed to take on his children's grief as well as his own.Participants reported some measures that were helpful to them in dealing with their grief.Among the activities that assisted in grieving were the development of new interests and hobbies.Some of these activities included building a loom and learning to weave, participating in local theater productions, teaching English, attending grief groups, reading books about death and grief, and joining a gym.Widowers' membership in their established religions was instrumental in the widowers' coping with their wives' deaths.Membership, understanding of, and faith in stated doctrines provided hope.
As soon as the funeral was over, he was left alone. Children knew their fathers were crying in private, often at night, thinking no one would notice.Both stated that widowers tried to remain "strong" when in public, crying infrequently in front of family members.Widowers seemed to think this would be helpful to their children.Playing computer games required little concentration and helped ward off loneliness.Maintaining a regular work schedule or a calendar of anticipated events helps to maintain normality and some excitement in one's life.
They found this emotion to be nearly all-consuming when not with family or work colleagues.