Dating a guy 14 years older
Though men have been enjoying May-December romances forever, women haven’t been afforded the same freedom necessarily.
Culturally, the older woman/younger man dynamic is perceived as an oddity, or a fluke.
And if he likes a certain type of music or movie that is a bit “old” for you, don’t be too dramatic when he talks about his love for it (i.e. Don’t get too bent out of shape if a question is asked of you that you didn’t see coming (“When are you guys getting married?? Just be honest about the fact that you’re taking things slow (if that’s what you’re doing) and keep it cool (Or, “You gotta ask him” always works).
Also be ready for nosy friends (especially women friends) who might think they’re entitled to question you about your cooking abilities, and what you’d be willing to do for their friend if you’re around for the long-term.
Try a new type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.
You don’t have to hit up a nightclub every weekend, but you definitely don’t want to spend too many weekends being the coupled up couch potatoes.
Actor Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra-Lee Furness for 17 years. A recent article in magazine looked at a handful of real-life May-December romances, focusing mainly on those between older women and younger men.
Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.
Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.
When it comes to the subject of love we always hope that there are no real significant barriers to its success.
In our hearts, if not in our heads, we’re convinced that love will always trump practical concerns such as money, social class, race and even gender. And what about age as it relates to older women involved with younger men?
He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).