Chinese customs on dating
When one middle school girl was asked if she had boy friend she told National Geographic, “There’s a boy who likes me.But all the boys in my grade are very low-class.” Dating changed under the Communists.“There is lots written in the state media about how all these tens of millions of unmarried men pose a threat to society.But at the other end of the spectrum, unmarried women who are not fulfilling their 'duty to the nation’ by getting married and having children are also seen as a threat.” As it has moved from communism towards a freer economy China has become a richer – and also increasingly unequal – society.She shouldn’t be with me and other men at the same time.” Asian-style dating often involves groups of young women and young men going out together in group for a meal or for a drink, or to a karaoke.If they go to a nightclub, men and women dance together in a group.Some colleges require married students to live apart while they are enrolled.
“The old family and social networks that people used to rely on for finding a husband or wife have fallen apart,” said James Farrer, an American sociologist whose book, “Opening Up,” looks at sex, dating and marriage in contemporary China.In the 1980s, couples were still apprehended by discipline police at universities for smooching on campus.A decade-old law forbidding marriage among university students was only repealed in September 2005.“There’s a huge sense of dislocation in China, and young people don’t know where to turn.” [Source: Brook Larmer, New York Times, March 19, 2013 ^-^] “The confusion surrounding marriage in China reflects a country in frenzied transition.Sharp inequalities of wealth have created new fault lines in society, while the largest rural-to-urban migration in history has blurred many of the old ones.
Demographic changes, too, are creating complications. Not only are many more Chinese women postponing marriage to pursue careers, but China’s gender gap — 118 boys are born for every 100 girls — has become one of the world’s widest, fueled in large part by the government’s restrictive one-child policy.