Advice on dating a separated married man
Do you date people who are going through a divorce??? If I see "separated" as relationship status on a profile (especially if her profile talks about her 6 month or 1 year old as well) then I'm not talking a chance on her. You need to be in a good place emotionally and happy enough with your own life to share it with someone else. Male here so I can't offer the OP much advice in her scenario, but I'd say anyone should probably wait to date until it's final.on the plus side, I did have a really good drink at that I've said on other posts in this sub, it's tough to bring up the topic of "oh, so... This one year rule is an one size fit all non-sense.
I don't think it's a coincidence that he didn't have any luck til that changed. My marriage was over for two years before the paperwork was finally completed (the courts were SLOW after the mandatory one year separation period), and I had a few stinging rejections because people assumed I was still invested in my marriage on some level. But, when I called it quits, with my ex-wives, and filed for divorce, it's because it was FN over! So, when I am pushed to the point of no return, there is NO return! I think focusing on the legal status of someone's divorce distracts away from the real issue at hand: are they emotionally and physically ready for the type of relationship they (and you) are pursuing? There's also lots of people who have never been legally married but may have had other kinds of long-term relationships that they are still carrying baggage from.
It was 3.75 years from when I left the house to when our divorce was final. I was 52 when I left, and I felt as though I didn't have time to waste, because I'm not getting any younger and I didn't do a whole lot of dating before I got married, so I needed to get out there.
I was ready to date, but I ran into a lot of skepticism and was avoided by women who didn't want to date a separated guy. like many things, there's no one-size-fits-all formula.
I wouldn't immediately discount someone who was separated, but I'd definitely ask questions and see where they were.
My ex and I were separated for two and a half years before our divorce was final just based on waiting periods and when we filed and all that.
( still married; just saying…) Now before anyone accuses me of picking on men, let me hasten to say that separated women can be just as “challenging” to date as separated men.