16 year old dating advice
We have done nothing that could be considered even remotely sexual, and don't plan to unless we're married.
They say that the age of consent being 16 only applies to children who's parents sign for emancipation, which they absolutely will not do. Age of consent and emancipation are completely unrelated.
I've been dating this guy for over a year, we're engaged, but don't plan on getting married until he's 21.
We're getting a apartment, but his guardian is his 18 year old sister how really doesn't like me, I can see him, or talk to him on the phone for over 30 days, she keeps threatening to kick him out on the streets, but..won't let him move in with me...
I find myself in the unsettling position of wanting to say very conventional things like ''An 18 year old boy only has one thing in mind.'' And then I feel bad. Older guys pick on younger, more vulnerable girls because it's harder for them to say no. They mostly spent time together at school, at lunch, or met before school for coffee. I told her that I wanted to meet him before they went ''out'' anywhere. Just make sure she knows that she can call you anytime and you will pick her up. That way she might talk to you about any things she doesn't know how to handle.
My mother-bear self wants to lay down the law and tell her no way in hell is she going to be dating an 18 year old who we know nothing about.
I want to support her to start thinking through some of this for herself, but whereas she used to have very good judgment, these days she's running on low self esteem and hormones and I believe would follow anybody home who told her she had beautiful eyes. I talked to her about birth control and safe sex and she clearly was not ready. She went to his house once or twice, all when parents were home. When she has been out later with others I often pick her up (the joys of cell phones! I guess when there is another boyfriend I will want to meet him also.
Of course this is just a stereotype, but one that might shape people's attitudes quite significantly.
Good luck dude I was in a similar situation (execept 21) and posted up on here for peoples thoughts but all the pedo comments etc got tedious and I can only imagine people saying/thinking the same in real life.
If it's a 16 year old girl and a 23 year old guy, the general consensus will be that he is "creepy" and clearly a "pedo" even though the girl is of legal age..